all of us have a set of morals. these morals are derived from various experiences that we’ve had while growing up. our parents, our peers, our own experiences all make up the sum of our moral and value system.

i believe that some people have a predisposition towards some types of personalities. some people are big hams while others are inherently shy. this doesn’t mean that it always has to stay like that. our morals may change as we grow.

i believe that my mom contributed to a rather significant part of the person who i am today. she is a strongly moral pacifist. increasingly more and more i’m getting into situations where either i have to deal with confrontation or i am a direct witness of confrontation. let me just say that this is troubling for me.

i think that my mom has taught me, by example, that it is better to bite one’s tongue than to speak your mind. it is better to avoid confrontation instead of fighting it head on. it is better to take personal loss than to inconvenience others and it is better to avoid confrontation instead of getting yourself into potentially harmful confrontations.

the problem is that there is only a limit to which one can do this before you just have to say or do something. sometimes i wonder what other people do when they are faced with similar situations. do you just let it go?

confrontation. i think it is the natural tendency for people to avoid it. it’s easier to not deal with if you ignore it. weird how that kind of mentality could just lead to even more significant consequences than dealing with it from the beginning.