i never understood why people enjoy having conflict in their relationships. i never understood why that’s a good or desirable quality to have in order to have a successful relationship. it drives me crazy when i hear about people who do things that are designed to provoke a reaction out of the other person so that they know that the other person cares about them. why do people feel that this is an effective and desirable way to find out how others feel about them?

i also don’t understand why people believe in playing hard to get. why do you want to impede in the progress of something that could be great? wouldn’t you rather drive towards the same endgame? why does it feel better to have to overcome some kind of massive hurdle, some kind of painstaking courting process to end up dating someone? why do people feel like dating should be some kind of rite of passage filled with tortuous tests?

i just don’t get it. why does dating have to be difficult?