the other day conversation had drifted to the topic of wedding rings. a friend of mine is anticipating getting engaged any time now (uhh, this year anyway) and so there’s been a lot of discussion what kind of engagement ring to get.
i’ve always known that there were all these different types of cuts, settings, and the like, but really, “how hard could it be to get a ring?” was what i found myself asking.
i think that part of proposing is the setup. i mean, it’s got to be a surprise, it’s got to be something memorable, right? i’ve heard of some proposals where the guy basically would end up saying, “so hey, we should get married. here’s a ring. ok?”
but i think that asking a ton of questions about the ring just demystifies the whole process. it should be this kind of magical process where you get a ring, you propose, you present the ring to the girl, and she just falls in love with it. see, doesn’t that sound so much better?
but apparently, it is not uncommon for couples to go ring shopping together to pick out a ring. i think that really just cheapens the whole experience. she will know that you are looking. she’ll know that it’s coming soon…and i don’t know, it just doesn’t seem as magical anymore.
i’ve always thought that i’d end up getting the engagement ring that i like, anyway, and hope that my fiancee likes it as much as i do. =P
what i don’t get is how you find out the size of the ring without asking the girl straight up. i mean, how do you measure her finger without her knowing that you’re looking for a ring? *ponder*
Dardy, you snatch one of her existing rings and get it sized, then you replace her ring before she knows it’s missing. And now you have her ring size.
I’ve heard of women who have dumped a guy because they were insulted by the chosen ring. I’ve also heard of women who fax their boyfriends at work with magazine ads of the ring(s) they like…BEFORE the guy has proposed.
a friend of mine custom-made their ring online and sent it via email to her boyfriend before they were engaged.
another friend went ring shopping with their girlfriend before being engaged and she picked out the ring she wanted. he bought it, waited a while, and then finally proposed!
Where’s the romance?
Eh, who am I to talk? I’m probably never getting married.
might as well let the girls do the ring shopping cuz she’s gonna ask for an upgrade anyways. =)
I think it’s important that the girl LOVES her engagement ring…after all, she’s going to be wearing it for the rest of her life. and it’s not about the size of the carat…well, it also is :P…but it’s about the style itself. some guys may think that they have the perfect ring because of what the salesperson tells them. but the girl might think differently. it’s not wrong for the guy to be a little educated on what pleases his fiancée. and just because the girl picked out the ring, it doesn’t mean that the novelty is completely lost. it’s the way he purposes that matters.
I completely agree…it should be a suprise and magical. If the boy has to ask questions or if the girl has to pick the ring, email/fax selected ring to boy…it’s just not the same. Where’s the romance? Where’s the “I know you so well that I picked THE ring for you.” element? And why can’t the boy just read the girl’s mind?! We’re not that complicated. :p