a few weekends ago i went to the begonia festival in capitola. one of the many things that they had at the festival was a sand castle making contest along the beach. it was pretty cool to check out. many of the sand sculptures were alarmingly close to the water and they had to build sand walls to keep the crashing waves from breaking into their sculptures. some of the sculptures didn’t survive the waves.
maybe next year i will make an entry into the sand sculpture contest. what would i ever make?
i didn’t know how much longer i could hold out, but it seemed like an eternity since i ate my last donut. i broke down and stopped by the donut store on the way to work today.
i usually only order one donut, but because it has been so long since i’ve eaten a good donut, i ordered three.
i’ve only eaten one donut so far, but i indulged and got a custard filled maple bar. mmmmm.
i am so weak.
after reading the x-gf’s latest entry about a memory long past, it made me recall something from my past.
i was at the bart station, ready to drop off my girlfriend. she was not prepared to leave the car and did not want me to go. i had made plans weeks in advance that evening to go watch a depeche mode concert with some friends. she was not interested in going.
she was insistent that we spend more time together, to talk some things through. the tickets that i had for the concert were back at home, i had to go home first, pick them up, and give them to my friends who were going with me.
she made an ultimatum: stay with her or go to the concert and leave her forever. there were many times in that relationship where she made me choose her or my friends.
it was the last depeche mode concert ever worth going to.
but i had decided to stay with her.
i called my friends and told them where the tickets were, to pick them up, and i would try to meet them later if i could.
i never did.
hindsight always gives you such a wonderful perspective. i learned a lesson from that day. ultimatums are just not good and if i ever get into a situation where someone has to lay down that kind of an ultimatum, it makes you really think about what led you down to that path.